Sep 8, 2010

food for thought

After reading this post from Lisa Belkin at the New York Times Motherlode blog, I was left with a huge, existential (for me) question:  where is the happy medium between giving everything for the ones you love and "pulling yourself up by the roots" while telling your loved ones to "find a new place to sit?"

3 comments:

  1. such an interesting article. I don't know that I even think about children's books this deeply. If Clayton likes it and it's fun to read, I don't mind. I just love that he likes to read.
    However, the question you pose, is one that has been on my mind lately. Mainly because my in-laws have a a son (not my hubby) who has pretty much allowed them to take care of his family for him. Long story short, 4 kids and 2 wives later, he is living at home with 2 of his kids and 2 of his wife's kids, not paying rent, not paying for anything he can possibly get away with. He is older than my husband, but has never held a steady job. When is enough, enough? When does it turn into enabling your children instead of loving them? I hope that I will continually teach my children how to prepare for the world. And if they choose not to make good decisions, I hope that they understand I will always be there for them, but will not always give everything. It's just not fair to the other children and grandchildren. If any of that makes sense...

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  2. That makes perfect sense. I guess we are all trying to figure out how to give our kiddos a sense of security but also of independence. You want them to know you will always be there for them, but you also want them to do things for themselves. I want a middle ground to exist between enabling and tough love, I guess. Can someone please tell me where it is? :-)

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  3. I think that is different for everyone ... no book for that, i'm sure!
    sorry, didn't mean to go on and on, on your blog! :)

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