Colin had his one month check up last Thursday, and his pediatrician was very pleased with his growth and development. C is just over 11 pounds, which is a pound and a half over his birthweight. Yay! He's alert and interested in his surroundings, and the pedi declared him "a good American boy."
Among my many questions was what we should be doing to eventually get this boy to nap. Our pediatrician said it is a good idea to start working on naps, but he didn't really offer very much in the way of how to do this. I have read the books; our previous pedi recommended Babywise when I asked him this same question concerning Cara. I also read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby and the Dr. Sears Baby Sleep Book. Yes, I have read at least three books on baby sleep, asked another doctor, and I have an older child, and yet I am still asking about baby sleep. I just don't get it, and so far, nothing has been helpful.
The books really just suck. Mostly they say "put your baby down for a nap." What exactly does that mean? Because when I have tried to put either of my babies "down for a nap," all they do or did is cry. A lot of crying. I have found nothing in any book that offers a next step.
Some people would probably say that this is where "cry it out" should start. My response to CIO is no. No. I am not a big softie, attachment parent advocate, or an idiot, but it goes against every fiber of my being to sit around listening to my baby cry without doing anything. I can handle about ten minutes of crying before SOMETHING MUST BE DONE.
Mornings are generally pretty awesome around here. Getting Cara to school in the morning isn't all that stressful, and Colin is usually in a good mood because his tummy is full and he hasn't had time to get overtired yet. After we take Cara to school, Colin and I usually take a 30-45 minute walk. Sometimes he sleeps on the walk, sometimes not really. When we get home, I feed him and start trying to get him to sleep for a nap. And this is where our day has been taking a turn for the worse. For the past few weeks, Colin has spent most of his time crying and resisting napping until I give up around 3:30 or 4 and put him in the car for a drive. And, let's be honest, when you have spent a majority of your day trying (unsuccessfully) to soothe an overtired, miserable baby, it's really hard to deny yourself a milkshake. Because what else are you going to do now that you finally have that baby asleep?
This pattern has to end. I hate seeing Colin so miserable, and obviously, I am not going to lose the rest of this baby weight drowning my sorrows in milkshakes. How do I get my baby to take restorative naps in his crib (or another stationary sleeping place) so that he's not spending his whole day crying and driving his mommy to insanity?